You may kiss the bride, then what?

Ok so the groom has kissed the bride, and you have gone for your honeymoon, now what? Well, firstly this is when the dating game really begins. Don’t stop dating each other. Spray that perfume/dior, dress up, go for a walk, go for concerts. bottom line , don’t just stay at home and stare at each other. ( you may get tired of seeing the same face over and over again) It’s not about how much money you spend but about how much time you spend together.

The kitchen is not for ladies and the garden is not for men. Don’t make a rule of of something that was never one. Help each other and appreciate the work your spouse is doing. It’s wise to learn how to do everything just in case you are alone one day and have to do it.

I always say and will continue to say you are not a rehab centre neither is your spouse so don’t make it a mission to try and change them. God gave us different personalities so appreciate those differences. It may sound unfair but yes accept the things you can not change and appreciate what you have. Be the change you want to see.

Secrets. Stay away from them. they are bad for you. The secrets you keep from each other will come back and haunt you. Be open with each other. Your spouse really should be you best friend. Enough said.

Romantic surprises are not old tales. They work so do keep them coming.

Inspire your spouse to want to be the best they can be. Don’t play the “Pull Me Down” game. Help them achieve their dreams.

Life will not always be a smooth ride but learn to trust that you and your partner can come through it. If you could get to the alter and utter the words “I do” then surely you can beat anything else.

Till death do us part. Don’t allow Delilah or Mr Nice Guy to break that vow. Never leave 80% love and security for 20% fun and joy rides ,it’s not worth it.

Pray together otherwise your house will crumble before you can even blink. Make God the third rope in your home and never throw that Rope away.

Saneliso

All the single ladies and gentlemen!

This is not about Beyonce’s song but just some hints and for those who are single and maybe searching.

• Look at your past relationships and learn from your mistakes. Don’t repeat them.
• I’m changing the Garbage in Garbage out theory(GIGO) If you tell yourselves that there are no good man or woman left then you will always see the person you are with as bad no matter how hard they try. Ladies, all the good man are not taken, take that idea out of you mind because it can be destructive to any potential relationship.
• Don’t try and change yourself for someone with the hope that they may just love you more. When you date, be true to yourself and they will love you for it.
• Don’t try and fit a shoe that is two sizes smaller. Know what you want and be in the right environment. If you are looking for a genuine man or woman, don’t plan to meet them in the club, try the church. If you are looking for a person who loves to sing, join the choir:) If you are looking for a person who likes being outdoors then go there. You get the idea:)Position yourself well.
• A partner is not a rehab centre. Don’t think that you need someone in your life to make you  complete.If you are not happy with yourself you will never be happy with anyone else.
• If you look around you, you will go crazy because pressure is everywhere. Stop putting pressure on yourself. Marriage is a gift and blessing not a requirement.
• Don’t hide in your apartment. Make time to meet people. How else will they know that you are available?
• If at first you don’t succeed don’t try, try , try again. That person is probably not into you.
• Lastly, ask God for a partner. It works.

Yours Truly

Sannie