All the single ladies and gentlemen!

This is not about Beyonce’s song but just some hints and for those who are single and maybe searching.

• Look at your past relationships and learn from your mistakes. Don’t repeat them.
• I’m changing the Garbage in Garbage out theory(GIGO) If you tell yourselves that there are no good man or woman left then you will always see the person you are with as bad no matter how hard they try. Ladies, all the good man are not taken, take that idea out of you mind because it can be destructive to any potential relationship.
• Don’t try and change yourself for someone with the hope that they may just love you more. When you date, be true to yourself and they will love you for it.
• Don’t try and fit a shoe that is two sizes smaller. Know what you want and be in the right environment. If you are looking for a genuine man or woman, don’t plan to meet them in the club, try the church. If you are looking for a person who loves to sing, join the choir:) If you are looking for a person who likes being outdoors then go there. You get the idea:)Position yourself well.
• A partner is not a rehab centre. Don’t think that you need someone in your life to make you  complete.If you are not happy with yourself you will never be happy with anyone else.
• If you look around you, you will go crazy because pressure is everywhere. Stop putting pressure on yourself. Marriage is a gift and blessing not a requirement.
• Don’t hide in your apartment. Make time to meet people. How else will they know that you are available?
• If at first you don’t succeed don’t try, try , try again. That person is probably not into you.
• Lastly, ask God for a partner. It works.

Yours Truly

Sannie

Mistakes people make before marriage

There are things that we do as young people while dating that have a long lasting  negative effect on our relationships and lives. Some are good decisions and some are bad and when the effect is bad, we always have somebody saying “If somebody had spoken to me, things would have turned out differently.” Well the truth is, when people are “inlove” most of the advice given to them seems foolish but in this article i’d like touch on some mistakes that people make when they consider themselves ready for marriage.
The first mistake is Rushing Into Marriage
People tend to forget that dating is not just a hit and run game but  something that has different stages and when you skip one or two its likely that you will mess up. The stages of dating are: Friendship-   Casual Dating-   Steady dating-   Pre-engagement-   Formal Engagement-  Marriage. At a glance is looks like a long boring and unnecessary process but when you skip some of them or mix them up, you will find that as time goes by character flaws that you never thought you partner would have start to emerge and this is usually a bitter pill to swallow. When you rush into marriage without a stable base, the whole love triangle will probably crumble which is why we find that divorce rates world wide are very high.
You need to take time to seek God’s guidance and pay attention to the warning signs, they are there for a reason. If you rush things you are just planning a wedding not marriage.

The second mistake is Living together before marriage

Playing house is for kids and you can’t afford to do it as an adult. People now call it living in. People argue that living in as a chance for you to see your partners behavior and study their character before you decide to get married. The interesting thing about that if you find that you don’t like something about  them, you are free to walk out the door but I got news for you, marriage does not work that way. In marriage you don’t just walk out just because life is not that rosy on that particular day. When you play house you are testing compatibility and when you slip up you have failed the test and you run but in marriage you are ideally supposed to hang in there through thick and thin, for better or for worse, remember the vows. If you want to use living in as a test to see if your marriage will work you are  wasting your time because to know what marriage is like you have to be married.
There are some couple who were fortunate enough to get married to the partners that they Lived in with but studies show that divorce rates among such couples are very high. If playing house is supposed to show you if you are compatible then why are divorce rates high? Shouldn’t it end with the couple living happily ever after?

Yours Truly

Sannie

Start With the Physical

Many of us have some improvements that we’d like to make in our lives - career, relationship, health, spiritual. The question is – where should you begin? My suggestion is that you begin with your physical body. Improving your level of fitness and/or diet will produce some positive results in the long run. This is because by improving your level of fitness and diet you will have a lot more extra energy available to you everyday. This will result in more energy to invest in your career, relationships, mental, and spiritual development.

It’s been said that people spend their first 50 years trading their health for wealth, and then they spend the next 50 years trading their wealth for health. This is not a trade that we should make at all.

A fact is that you take your body with you wherever you go. If you are overweight then you carry around that excess weight with you at all times. Now an extra 7kg may not seem like much, but if you carry around an extra 7kg dumbbell all day long, you will soon see that it feels exhausting and tires you out much faster. 7kg of excess fat weighs the same as a 7kg dumbbell, and carrying it around all day will definitely feel burdensome and drain your energy.

I remember the times in my life when I kept to a strict exercise routine and watched my diet. I was able to think clearer and could concentrate for much longer periods without getting tired because I had a lot more energy. One of the many advantages of exercise is that it provides an increase in blood flow, which helps oxygenate the body, especially the brain. Another key benefit of improving your body is that you will see the physical results within a short space of time if you are consistent with your routine. This is very satisfying and an important motivating factor. Loss of fitness appears gradually and you will hardly notice it. If you eat poorly and don’t exercise, you will pay the consequences.

I have read many stories and know about many people who have transformed their lives for the better – and physical fitness and diet was almost always a significant component from the beginning.